Many of us have done the same thing. We have blamed people who were present because we could not reach the people or circumstances that actually caused the wound. We have snapped at the family member who stayed because we were hurting over the one who left. We have accused the friend who tried because we were still grieving the person who failed us. We have punished the safe people because we did not know what to do with unsafe memories.

Sometimes you survive the battle and still collapse afterward. Sometimes the enemy is defeated, but the cost of the fight keeps bleeding in your spirit. Sometimes the danger is over, but the sorrow has only just begun. That is one of the deepest truths beating at the heart of Chapter 12: “Pain and Sorrow” from Book II of S.O.L.A.D.™: It’s Just the Beginning.