Reap What You Sow Mondays with Tony: More Than Enough– Confronting the Lies That Tell Black Women They Must Earn Their Worth
- Tyrone Tony Reed Jr.
- Apr 21
- 4 min read
💬 Let’s Tell the Truth: The Lie Black Women Have Been Sold
For far too long, Black women have been fed a dangerous lie. A lie so insidious that it’s often passed down, internalized, and masked in applause:
“You are only as valuable as what you can produce, provide, or perform.”
This lie hides in:
“Strong Black woman” tropes that demand resilience but deny rest.
Workplace cultures that only reward Black women when they overachieve without complaint.
Church spaces that expect service but rarely offer sanctuary.
Family dynamics that depend on her emotional labor but seldom pour back into her.
But the truth is this:
God never required you to earn what He’s already declared.
You are not loved because you’re flawless. You are not valuable because you’re perfect. You are not chosen because you always get it right.
You are enough—because you were created in the image of the Creator. Full stop.
🧬 Before You Were a Title… You Were His
Before you were “mama,”Before you were “first lady,”Before you were “Dr.,” “Sis,” “Queen,” or “CEO”—You were His daughter.
You were loved before you ever cooked, cleaned, led, interceded, taught, mothered, or served.
📖 Jeremiah 1:5 (NKJV)“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; before you were born I sanctified you…”
You are more than your service.More than your suffering. More than the roles you carry.
💎 You Are Not a Burden-Bearer by Design
You may carry heavy things, but you were never built to live in burnout.
God never called you to pour until you’re empty. God never required your exhaustion to prove your holiness. God doesn’t bless busy—He blesses obedience.
The world may reward performance. But God rewards presence.
💁🏾♀️ When the World Sees You as a Workhorse, God Sees You as His Work of Art
Let that sink in.
📖 Ephesians 2:10 (NKJV)“For we are His workmanship…”
That word “workmanship” in Greek is poiēma—where we get the word “poem.”
You are not machinery. You are a masterpiece.
Crafted by divine hands. Wrapped in glory. Woven with strength and softness.Anointed with fire and grace.
🕊️ The Emotional Toll of Feeling Like You Must “Earn” Everything
Living under the weight of performance looks like:
Feeling guilty for resting.
Apologizing for saying no.
Downplaying your pain because “somebody has it worse.”
Wondering if your value disappears when you can no longer do it all.
That’s not purpose. That’s bondage.
And it’s time to break it.
✊🏾 Black Women Who Walked in Their Enoughness
1. Maya Angelou — The Voice Who Spoke Anyway
She was told she was “too deep,” “too Black,” “too poetic.”
And yet, she spoke. Because she knew:
“I am a woman. Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, that’s me.”
2. Michelle Obama — Grace Without Apology
Mocked for her body, her fashion, her faith, and her intellect. But she never bent to fit anyone’s box.
Instead, she rose.
Because she knew her value came from something no poll, press, or pundit could touch.
3. Every Black Woman Who Decided “I Don’t Have to Prove It”
The single mother who stopped apologizing.
The pastor’s wife who took a sabbath.
The community leader who decided she didn’t need another title to make a difference.
Her presence is enough. Her breath is enough. Her being is enough.
🔥 What Happens When Black Women Stop Striving and Start Abiding
When you walk in your already-given value:
You rest without guilt.
You worship without performance.
You lead without seeking validation.
You love from overflow, not obligation.
You release the need to prove your value and simply embody it.
📖 Romans 8:1 (NKJV)“There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus…”
No condemnation. No pressure. No shame.
🪞 Let’s Break the Cycle
We break the cycle of performance-based worth when we:
✅ Speak the truth over ourselves daily.
✅ Teach our daughters they don’t have to earn love.
✅ Hold space for rest as much as we hold space for work.
✅ Say “I am enough” even when we feel undone.
🌾Inspirational Quote for Today
“You don’t have to earn what God already called you—chosen, worthy, and more than enough.”— Tyrone Tony Reed Jr.
💭 Reflection Questions
What lies have I internalized about needing to “do more” to be accepted?
Where am I overperforming for validation God never required?
How would I move, speak, love, and live if I believed I was already enough?
💡 Challenge for the Week
✅ Declare every morning: “I am already enough.”
✅ Choose one responsibility or burden you can release this week.
✅ Affirm another Black woman’s enoughness. Tell her, “You don’t have to prove anything. You already are.”
✅ Reflect on how God sees you—not just for what you do, but for who you are.
📣 Call to Action
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👑 Final Word
To every Black woman who’s been taught to do more, be more, say more just to feel seen—
Let this post be your release. Happy 21st day of International Black Women's History Month!
You are already a force. You are already sacred. You are already beautiful. You are already worthy.
Because you are already enough.
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