Tony Tips Tuesdays™: Writing Complex Friendships
- Tyrone Tony Reed Jr.
- Oct 14
- 7 min read
When it comes to writing fiction that resonates, friendships are one of the richest, most overlooked narrative tools in a writer’s arsenal. While love stories get the spotlight and rivals spark tension, the bonds between friends are where we often find the deepest emotional truths.
Friendships in fiction should be multifaceted, just like they are in real life. They can be loyal yet complicated, nurturing yet competitive, comforting yet confrontational. And when they’re written well, these relationships elevate your characters, deepen your plot, and move your readers.
Let’s talk about how to write friendships that feel real, raw, and unforgettable.
🤝 Why Fictional Friendships Matter
Friendships aren’t just filler between plot points. They provide:
Emotional grounding – Giving your characters a space where they don’t have to perform, where they can just be.
Motivational push – A good friend can talk a character into greatness—or drag them into danger.
Consequences – The loss or betrayal of a friendship can be more painful than romantic heartbreak.
Character mirrors – Friends reflect what your protagonist values, fears, or denies about themselves.
From shared dreams to shared disappointments, friendships reveal who your characters truly are.
🎭 Real Friendships Are Complicated
Let’s be honest: not all friendships are perfect. And that’s exactly why they’re dramatically rich.
A great fictional friendship can contain:
Jealousy – One friend is succeeding while the other feels left behind.
Betrayal – A lapse in trust that shatters their bond.
Rivalry – Friendly competition that turns into real tension.
Support – A friend who holds you up in your lowest moment.
Codependence – One friend always fixes the other’s problems.
Boundaries – One wants closeness, the other keeps distance.
Growth – They both change in different ways, for better or worse.
Silence – Unspoken things, long pauses, or awkward truths that surface in conflict.
Let your fictional friendships breathe, bend, break—and rebuild.
🧠 Dig Into Character Dynamics
To make a friendship feel authentic, you must first understand the emotional chemistry between the characters:
Who needs what from the friendship?
Who gives more—and why?
What roles do they play (protector, instigator, peacemaker)?
What secrets are they keeping from each other?
What unspoken agreements have they made about loyalty, time, or sacrifice?
Do they enable or challenge each other?
You’re not just creating characters who get along. You’re writing people who carry each other’s stories.
🔄 Types of Friendships in Fiction
Not all friendships are the same. Here are some popular types to explore and subvert:
The Ride-or-Die Bestie – Loyal to the end, regardless of how much they’re asked to sacrifice.
The Frenemy – Sometimes close, sometimes rivals, always electric.
The Childhood Friend – Someone who’s known the protagonist before they became who they are now.
The Work Friend – Supportive in context, but do they really know each other?
The New Friend – Brings fresh perspective, tests old loyalties.
The Mentor-Friend – A character who advises but also emotionally connects.
The Chosen Family – A non-biological bond stronger than blood.
Explore how these roles create conflict and clarity, and how they shape the character’s identity.
✨ Examples of Memorable Fictional Friendships
🖤 Literature:
Harry, Ron & Hermione (Harry Potter) – This trio showcases every shade of friendship: the miscommunications that lead to blowups, the sacrifices that save lives, and the unwavering loyalty that carries them through every challenge. Hermione’s intellect, Ron’s insecurities, and Harry’s burdens all cause friction, but it’s their differences that make their friendship feel real. They fight. They falter. But they always come back to each other.
Frodo & Sam (The Lord of the Rings) – Samwise Gamgee is the definition of unwavering devotion. As Frodo grows weaker and more burdened by the Ring, Sam becomes his strength. Their friendship is not only selfless and sacrificial, but transcendent—proof that love between friends can be just as powerful as romance. Sam carries Frodo up the mountain when Frodo can no longer walk—a literal and emotional act of loyalty.
Celie & Shug Avery (The Color Purple) – What starts as a complicated, even adversarial relationship, evolves into one of deep spiritual and emotional healing. Shug teaches Celie to love herself, to fight back, and to reclaim her voice. Their friendship is transformative—both women shift the course of their lives because of the trust and affection they build.
Sherlock Holmes & Dr. Watson – Though often portrayed as opposites—Sherlock the aloof genius and Watson the warm-hearted soldier—their friendship thrives on respect and unspoken emotional connection. Watson humanizes Sherlock, while Sherlock challenges Watson to think beyond convention. It’s a partnership rooted in intellect and quietly fierce loyalty.
Jem & Scout Finch (To Kill a Mockingbird) – While technically siblings, Jem and Scout’s bond plays out with the dynamics of a deep childhood friendship. Their innocence, bickering, and shared experiences—especially witnessing the harsh realities of racial injustice—create a friendship that grows alongside their moral awakening.
🎬 Film:
Buzz & Woody (Toy Story) – From rivalry to reluctant collaboration to chosen brotherhood, this friendship charts one of the most satisfying arcs in animated history. Their journey reflects how competition can evolve into mutual respect, how jealousy can be replaced by sacrifice, and how true friends grow by challenging each other.
Thelma & Louise – Their friendship starts out strained, each unsure of her place in the world. But as they hit the road and face one trial after another, their bond strengthens into an inseparable force of empowerment. The final scene, where they drive off the cliff hand in hand, is both tragic and triumphant—a defiant act of friendship in the face of a world that failed them.
Miles Morales & Gwen Stacy (Across the Spider-Verse) – Their connection transcends timelines and universes. What makes this friendship powerful is its blend of romantic tension and emotional trust. Gwen opens up to Miles about her fears, while Miles challenges her to believe in him when no one else does. Their bond is fun, aching, and constantly evolving.
Forrest & Bubba (Forrest Gump) – Bubba is Forrest’s first true friend—someone who accepts him without question. Their friendship is built on shared dreams and quiet understanding. Bubba’s death becomes a defining loss in Forrest’s life, and Forrest’s actions afterward—including starting the shrimp business in Bubba’s name—honor a friendship that was simple, but sacred.
Chiron & Kevin (Moonlight) – From childhood to adulthood, their relationship is shaped by silence, trauma, and tenderness. Kevin is the one person who sees Chiron fully—first as a boy, then as a man. Their complicated dynamic captures the vulnerability of friendship born from shared pain and longing.
📺 TV:
Will & Carlton (The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air) – They begin as foils: street-smart vs. book-smart, bold vs. proper. But over the seasons, they become confidantes. Their friendship blossoms through family ties, shared missteps, and personal growth. They teach each other how to blend pride with humility and family with friendship.
Ann & Leslie (Parks and Recreation) – This is a friendship of joy and mutual admiration. Ann supports Leslie’s big dreams, while Leslie celebrates Ann’s every quirk and accomplishment with over-the-top enthusiasm. They’re each other’s hype-woman, therapist, and soft place to land. It’s a rare portrayal of unconditional friendship between women in comedy.
Issa & Molly (Insecure) – A shining example of how friendship can be both deeply loving and deeply flawed. Their journey features miscommunication, envy, growth, and rupture. But it also showcases how hard we fight for the friends who hold our history. Their dynamic is honest, uncomfortable at times, and always layered.
Troy & Abed (Community) – This duo is a love letter to weird, wholehearted connection. They build a world of imagination and support where both can fully be themselves. While their friendship is often comedic, it also shows how being seen—truly seen—is a powerful act of love.
Meredith & Cristina (Grey’s Anatomy) – “You’re my person.” That iconic line sums up a friendship built on fierce loyalty and shared trauma. Through surgical rivalries, heartbreaks, and life changes, they remain each other’s emotional constants. Their bond is messy, real, and unshakable.
🎮 Video Games:
Ellie & Riley (The Last of Us) – In a world ravaged by apocalypse, Ellie and Riley’s friendship offers a moment of joy and normalcy. Their connection is playful, romantic, and tragically fleeting. The bittersweet nature of their bond adds depth to Ellie’s character and underscores what she’s lost.
Atreus & Sindri (God of War: Ragnarok) – What begins as a mentorship marked by sarcasm and tension grows into an emotionally complex friendship. As Sindri grieves, their bond unravels, showing how pain and pride can fracture even the deepest connections. It’s a bold portrayal of grief and relational consequence in a fantasy setting.
Lee & Clementine (The Walking Dead Game) – One of the most beloved duos in gaming, Lee becomes a father figure and protector to Clementine. Their bond evolves from necessity to love, with Lee teaching Clementine survival, compassion, and strength. Their final moments are a gut punch—and a masterclass in emotional storytelling.
✍🏾 Writing Tips for Complex Friendships
Show, Don’t Tell:
Show the memories, the tension, the growth. Let readers feel it.
Conflict is Key:
Real friendships are tested. That’s where the richness lies.
Let Them Drift:
Absences matter. Changes matter. Sometimes love means distance.
Avoid Perfect Friendships:
They should challenge each other, not just cheerlead.
Include Group Dynamics:
Layers emerge when multiple people affect each other's bonds.
Give Them Their Own Life:
Friends aren’t just accessories. They should have independent arcs.
Use Nonverbal Communication:
Some of the deepest moments happen without dialogue.
Make the Reunion Count:
Earned forgiveness or reconnection is deeply satisfying.
🔁 Bonus Writing Prompts:
Two friends bury a secret—literally or metaphorically.
One confesses jealousy while still cheering the other on.
A seemingly toxic friendship works for them.
A character outgrows a friendship and mourns it.
Two friends reunite after years apart—what’s changed?
💬 Tony Tip:
“Friendships are where your characters show their truest selves. Make them funny. Make them fragile. Make them worth fighting for.”
Don’t just use friendship as background noise. Use it as a story engine. Let your characters connect, fall apart, heal, or miss each other across space and time. Readers don’t just remember the action—they remember who held the character’s hand afterward.
Friendships are world-builders, heart-healers, and the unexpected emotional glue of unforgettable fiction.
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